Most people wouldn’t look at me and think to themselves (or say aloud), “Gee, he’s a happy little bundle of sunshine!” The common human I encounter sort of looks sideways at me while skirting the edges to avoid me. I do present a bit of a fantastic visage when I’m out and about. It’s probably the leather frock coats. Or the dark glasses which protect my eyes.
I have always been a bit of a grim creature, but only because I had the veil of lies stripped from my eyes at an early age and was thrust headlong into the unvarnished truths of life. All things are temporary. Change is inevitable. Everything costs.
My late husband was the exception to that last truth. Everything we did for each other cost absolutely nothing. Except when he died; that cost me the remainder of my soul, I think.
So, Wildcat, what do you do to keep your spirits up in the face of excruciatingly idiotic everyday blather? How does one get through the day when surrounded by a society of morons and pundits of irrationality?
Here’s the secret recipe.
Once you realize that everything is temporary and that change is inevitable, you can basically just sit back with a tub of popcorn and watch others try to affect change where change doesn’t require any intervention. There’s so many out there who are getting on a cause just because they have to have one. They don’t truly understand what it’s about, it just seems a good idea at the time.
I don’t support any causes at all. It seriously reduces my stress levels.
Even though I’m gay, you won’t see me at a gay pride event, no parades, and I won’t go to the ball even if my fairy godmother insists.
For all things which come across my sphere of influence, I think to myself, “How does this affect me?” Usually it doesn’t. If it does, I ask myself, “How can I affect this?” If I can, I will take steps to do what’s best for an optimal outcome in MY life. If I can’t, I let it roll over me, or go around me. All things are temporary.
I also don’t allow other people’s problems to affect me. While I might sympathize with someone’s plight, I won’t empathize. I won’t take that burden upon me. I may offer my advice, but at the end of the conversation, I won’t make it my problem.
It’s similar to my work. When I’m in the office, I take care of the problems. Once I leave the office, it’s not my concern until the next time I’m in the office.
While people may consider my life outlook to be detached, distant, possibly even arrogant, it keeps my life very simple and unaffected. I won’t complicate my existence with situation that I have no control over, nor with the complexity of another’s misfortune.
Harsh but necessary in these times. If I came across a society that truly gave a rat’s ass about each other, I might make an effort to change my stance. So far, I continue to observe the horror of human nature.
This is why I like animals. Simplicity.
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